Saturday, December 5, 2009

Craziness--looong update

I guess since I have followers now I should try to update a little more often. Things have been so crazy lately.

Last weekend when the kids were to be with their father he decided it would be a good idea to allow Creed to go spend some time with his Gram (bio mom's mom). We had talked about this before and came to an agreement that Creed wouldn't go there anymore until he was in therapy. She has a history of brain washing the poor child and I didn't feel he needed to be around her. When I first got Creed I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt and I allowed Creed to spend one night with her. She told me that she would help me out any way possible and I told her that Creed desperatly needed jeans. She said that was no problem and she would take him shopping while she had him and buy him a new winter coat and some jeans. He came home with a new coat, a brand new DS (he already had one that he had hid from his brothers and forgot where he put it) and 2 new games for it. He also told me how he got to play with his gram's voodoo doll while he was there. After hearing all of that I decided that as long as he was in my care he was not to be around her unsupervised. I of course couldn't supervise the visits myself with my 3 kids around so that is why I decided to make it possible for her to come spend an hour a month with him during one of his weekly therapy sessions. OK so back to last weekend, Creed ended up spending 4 days with his gram. When he came home I could tell that all the progress I had made with him in the last 2 months went right out the window. He didn't want to listen to me anymore, was crying a lot more than usual, being very sloppy with his school work, etc. I called dad and flipped out asking him what the heck he was thinking by doing this and he said that he felt bad for the gram because she is getting surgery soon. This lady put us through hell while we were still married and trying to get custody of Creed and he felt bad for her???!!!

I had a meeting at the school on Thursday to try to get Creed a T.S.S. to work with him in the classroom. There was a lady from the mental health place there that was fully aware of our situation, his teacher, me, and a lady from the billing agency that wasn't so aware of our situation. We got about 15 minutes away from being done with the hour long meeting and it came up that I wasn't a biological parent so the billing agency lady stopped the meeting and told us we couldn't proceed with the meeting anymore until I had custody papers or got dad to drag his lazy self to a meeting. She gave me a couple options to go about getting custody of Creed which involved me getting ahold of CPS to have them help me out. I immediatly came home and got on the phone to try to make that happen. When I called and gave them my name they gave me the name of the intake worker that I would need to speak with about it. That kind of got my head going wondering why I could only speak to one paticular person when it was such a general question. I ended up leaving that worker 2 messages on Thursday and never recieved a call back. I tried again on Friday and was told she wasn't available so I asked to talk to her supervisor. When I was asking the supervisor about the paper I was told I could get from them she gave me a run around telling me she didn't think they had anything like that. Then here comes the best part.....she tells me that there was recently a report filed AGAINST ME!!! I was shocked to say the least but I know that I have done nothing wrong to even be worried about it so I asked what the report was on. She told me that it was reported that I am constantly on drugs, let my kids just run wild, I beat my children on a regular basis and that everyone has been buying Creed new clothes but they disappear when they come to my house. I told her that I was more than willing to take a drug test because I know that I have nothing to worry about, my kids do not get beat and if they have any bruises it is because with 4 boys in a house it is hard to keep them from playing rough and bruising each other and any new clothes that Creed has got since coming to live with me were bought by me with child support payments (which are intended for my kids since Creed isn't added to my support yet). I was so upset that someone (Creed's gram) is trying to prevent me from doing what is best for this child. I made so many phone calls Friday trying to get things straightened out but I didn't feel like I was getting anywhere so I decided to call the school guidence counselor and have a meeting with her. She about fell off her chair when I told her that I was reported to CPS. She reassured me that I had nothing to worry about and begged me to please not give up on Creed. She even called CPS on my behalf and told them they had an open invitation to come to the school and speak with Creed, Kaleb, their teachers, Kaleb's T.S.S. and herself.

One more set back for me before things will get better, but I know they WILL get better!